Discord
Aargh ... I'm going through one of my discordant phases (arguably I'm never out of it, and it merely varies in intensity). I've just deleted my message to a list because no one thanked me for at least trying to answer the question. And I'm narked over another question someone asked. Again, I tried to answer the question, when apparently - judging by the other replies - all that was a required was for those answering to verbally shrug their shoulders and agree with the questioner. Eh? Why ask the question then? My reply looks naive and stupid. Certainly the person asking the question didn't understand what I was saying, or at least gave no indication that they did. I think I'll not bother for the next week or so and cool my heels.
posted by Alex Bordessa @ Sunday, July 16, 2006
6 Comments:
Online discussion can be infuriating at times. One reason why I'm taking a sabattical. Basic good manners seem to go out the window with some people.
So right, Martyn :-) After these incidents, I tend not to say anything on the actual list, as I know I'll regret it.
On one list I calmly pointed out that someone was unreasonably criticising a whole profession, but because the person who posted the original had some status within the group he got defended and I looked like the prat/baddie/whatever. Great. Perhaps I just have trouble with perceived authority ;-)
I hate it when people don't acknowledge what you put more than if they criticise. At least if they criticise, then they've read it or seen it, even if they might be blinkered or get the wrong end of the stick.
However, what annoys me more than not being acknowledged when I make a comment or post a question is when someone comes to MY BLOG and completely ignores ME. Would they go to a party and ignore the host? I don't think so.
Sorry, rant over.
And nice to see Martyn, btw. :o)
Diane, this is the place for a good rant at the moment, that's for sure ;-) The first email I did was not acknowledged at all, so I quietly removed it (won't be missed). The other one was effectively bypassed as well, being acknowledged and misunderstood by the original poster, and totally ignored by the rest. It might as well be blank space and my finger's still hovering over the delete key on that one. When I stop growling about it, it will be safe for me to go back.
Must admit I don't mind if something I've said on my blog initiates a discussion, which people subsequently 'take' elsewhere. But it doesn't happen often anyway. I delete spam-type stuff.
Yes, it's always nice to see Martyn :-)
Alex, I do sympathize. It makes your blood boil when you express an opinion forthrightly but politely and people try to put you in the wrong rather than respond rationally to your view. I suspect that, deep down, they know you have a point but they don't want to acknowledge it for whatever reason.
As Martyn says, online discussions can be infuriating. Like when you make a comment and someone gets hold of the wrong end of the stick and runs with it, leaving you behind uselessly protesting that that wasn't what you meant. Grrr.
Many thanks Sarah :-) Rebel without a pause, or a cause, me.
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